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July 20, 2008
Stoooopid &#8230;. why the Google generation isn’t as smart as it thinks
The digital age is destroying us by ruining our ability to concentrate

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<div id="related-article-links"><!-- Pagination -->On Wednesday I received 72 e-mails, not counting junk, and only two text<br />
messages. It was a quiet day but, then again, I’m not including the<br />
telephone calls. I’m also not including the deafening and pointless<br />
announcements on a train journey to Wakefield – use a screen, jerks – the<br />
piercingly loud telephone conversations of unsocialised adults and the<br />
screaming of untamed brats. And, come to think of it, why not include the<br />
junk e-mails? They also interrupt. There were 38. Oh and I’d better throw in<br />
the 400-odd news alerts that I receive from all the websites I monitor via<br />
my iPhone.</p>
<p>I was – the irony! – trying to read a book called Distracted: The Erosion of<br />
Attention and the Coming Dark Age by Maggie Jackson. Crushed in my train, I<br />
had become the embodiment of T S Eliot’s great summary of the modern<br />
predicament: “Distracted from distraction by distraction”. This is, you<br />
might think, a pretty standard, vaguely comic vignette of modern life – man<br />
harassed by self-inflicted technology. And so it is. We’re all distracted,<br />
we’re all interrupted. How foolish we are! But, listen carefully, it’s<br />
killing me and it’s killing you.</p>
<p>David Meyer is professor of psychology at the University of Michigan. In 1995<br />
his son was killed by a distracted driver who ran a red light. Meyer’s<br />
speciality was attention: how we focus on one thing rather than another.<br />
Attention is the golden key to the mystery of human consciousness; it might<br />
one day tell us how we make the world in our heads. Attention comes<br />
naturally to us; attending to what matters is how we survive and define<br />
ourselves.</p>
<p>The opposite of attention is distraction, an unnatural condition and one that,<br />
as Meyer discovered in 1995, kills. Now he is convinced that chronic,<br />
long-term distraction is as dangerous as cigarette smoking. In particular,<br />
there is the great myth of multitasking. No human being, he says, can<br />
effectively write an e-mail and speak on the telephone. Both activities use<br />
language and the language channel in the brain can’t cope. Multitaskers fool<br />
themselves by rapidly switching attention and, as a result, their output<br />
deteriorates.</p>
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<p>The same thing happens if you talk on a mobile phone while driving – even<br />
legally with a hands-free kit. You listen to language on the phone and lose<br />
the ability to take in the language of road signs. Worst of all is if your<br />
caller describes something visual, a wallpaper pattern, a view. As you<br />
imagine this, your visual channel gets clogged and you start losing your<br />
sense of the road ahead. Distraction kills – you or others.</p>
<p>Chronic distraction, from which we all now suffer, kills you more slowly.<br />
Meyer says there is evidence that people in chronically distracted jobs are,<br />
in early middle age, appearing with the same symptoms of burn-out as air<br />
traffic controllers. They might have stress-related diseases, even<br />
irreversible brain damage. But the damage is not caused by overwork, it’s<br />
caused by multiple distracted work. One American study found that<br />
interruptions take up 2.1 hours of the average knowledge worker’s day. This,<br />
it was estimated, cost the US economy $588 billion a year. Yet the rabidly<br />
multitasking distractee is seen as some kind of social and economic ideal.</p>
<p>Meyer tells me that he sees part of his job as warning as many people as<br />
possible of the dangers of the distracted world we are creating. Other<br />
voices, particularly in America, have joined the chorus of dismay. Jackson’s<br />
book warns of a new Dark Age: “As our attentional skills are squandered, we<br />
are plunging into a culture of mistrust, skimming and a dehumanising merger<br />
between man and machine.”</p>
<p>Mark Bauerlein, professor of English at Emory University in Atlanta, has just<br />
written The Dumbest Generation: How the Digital Age Stupefies Young<br />
Americans and Jeopardises Our Future. He portrays a bibliophobic generation<br />
of teens, incapable of sustaining concentration long enough to read a book.<br />
And learning a poem by heart just strikes them as dumb.</p>
<p>In an influential essay in The Atlantic magazine, Nicholas Carr asks: “Is<br />
Google making us stupid?” Carr, a chronic distractee like the rest of us,<br />
noticed that he was finding it increasingly difficult to immerse himself in<br />
a book or a long article – “The deep reading that used to come naturally has<br />
become a struggle.”</p>
<p>Instead he now Googles his way though life, scanning and skimming, not pausing<br />
to think, to absorb. He feels himself being hollowed out by “the replacement<br />
of complex inner density with a new kind of self – evolving under the<br />
pressure of information overload and the technology of the ‘instantly<br />
available’”.</p>
<p>“The important thing,” he tells me, “is that we now go outside of ourselves to<br />
make all the connections that we used to make inside of ourselves.” The<br />
attending self is enfeebled as its functions are transferred to cyberspace.</p>
<p>“The next generation will not grieve because they will not know what they have<br />
lost,” says Bill McKibben, the great environmentalist.</p>
<p>McKibben’s hero is Henry Thoreau, who, in the 19th century, cut himself off<br />
from the distractions of industrialising America to live in quiet<br />
contemplation by Walden Pond in Massachusetts. He was, says McKibben,<br />
“incredibly prescient”. McKibben can’t live that life, though. He must<br />
organise his global warming campaigns through the internet and suffer and<br />
react to the beeping pleading of the incoming e-mail.</p>
<p>“I feel that much of my life is ebbing away in the tide of minute-by-minute<br />
distraction . . . I’m not certain what the effect on the world will be. But<br />
psychologists do say that intense close engagement with things does provide<br />
the most human satisfaction.” The psychologists are right. McKibben<br />
describes himself as “loving novelty” and yet “craving depth”, the<br />
contemporary predicament in a nutshell.</p>
<p>Ironically, the companies most active in denying us our craving for depth, the<br />
great distracters – Microsoft, Google, IBM, Intel – are trying to do<br />
something about this. They have formed the Information Overload Research<br />
Group, “dedicated to promoting solutions to e-mail overload and<br />
interruptions”. None of this will work, of course, because of the<br />
overwhelming economic forces involved. People make big money out of<br />
distracting us. So what can be done?</p>
<p>The first issue is the determination of the distracters to create young<br />
distractees. Television was the first culprit. Tests clearly show that a<br />
switched-on television reduces the quality and quantity of interaction<br />
between children and their parents. The internet multiplies the effect a<br />
thousandfold. Paradoxically, the supreme information provider also has the<br />
effect of reducing information intake.</p>
<p>Bauerlein is 49. As a child, he says, he learnt about the Vietnam war from<br />
Walter Cronkite, the great television news anchor of the time. Now teenagers<br />
just go to their laptops on coming home from school and sink into their<br />
online cocoon. But this isn’t the informational paradise dreamt of by Bill<br />
Gates and Google: 90% of sites visited by teenagers are social networks.<br />
They are immersed not in knowledge but in “gossip and social banter”.</p>
<p>“They don’t,” says Bauerlein, “grow up.” They are “living off the thrill of<br />
peer attention. Meanwhile, their intellects refuse the cultural and civic<br />
inheritance that has made us what we are now”.</p>
<p>The hyper-connectivity of the young is bewildering. Jackson tells me that one<br />
study looked at five years of e-mail activity of a 24-year-old. He was found<br />
to have connections with 11.7m people. Most of these connections would be<br />
pretty threadbare. But that, in a way, is the point. All internet<br />
connections are threadbare. They lack the complexity and depth of real-world<br />
interactions. This is concealed by the language.</p>
<p>Join Facebook or MySpace and you suddenly have “friends” all over the place.<br />
Of course, you don’t. These are just casual, tenuous electronic pings.<br />
Nothing could be further removed from the idea of friendship.</p>
<p>These connections are severed as quickly as they are taken up – with the click<br />
of a mouse. Jackson and everyone else I spoke to was alarmed by the<br />
potential impact on real-world relationships. Teenagers are being groomed to<br />
think others can be picked up on a whim and dropped because of a mood or<br />
some slight offence. The fear is that the idea of sticking with another<br />
through thick and thin – the very essence of friendship and love – will come<br />
to seem absurd, uncool, meaningless.</p>
<p>One irony that lies behind all this is the myth that children are good at this<br />
stuff. Adults often joke that their 10-year-old has to fix the computer. But<br />
it’s not true. Studies show older people are generally more adept with<br />
computers than younger. This is because, like all multitaskers, the kids are<br />
deluding themselves into thinking that busy-ness is depth when, in fact,<br />
they are skimming the surface of cyberspace as surely as they are skimming<br />
the surface of life. It takes an adult imagination to discriminate, to make<br />
judgments; and those are the only skills that really matter.</p>
<p>The concern of all these writers and thinkers is that it is precisely these<br />
skills that will vanish from the world as we become infantilised<br />
cyber-serfs, our entertainments and impulses maintained and controlled by<br />
the techno-geek aristocracy. They have all noted – either in themselves or<br />
in others – diminishing attention spans, inability to focus, a loss of the<br />
meditative mode. “I can’t read War and Peace any more,” confessed one of<br />
Carr’s friends. “I’ve lost the ability to do that. Even a blog post of more<br />
than three or four paragraphs is too much to absorb. I skim it.”</p>
<p>The computer is training us not to attend, to drown in the sea of information<br />
rather than to swim. Jackson thinks this can be fixed. The brain is<br />
malleable. Just as it can be trained to be distracted, so it can be trained<br />
to pay attention. Education and work can be restructured to teach and<br />
propagate the skills of concentration and focus. People can be taught to<br />
turn off, to ignore the beep and the ping.</p>
<p>Bauerlein, dismayed by his distracted students, is not optimistic. Multiple<br />
distraction might, he admits, be a phase, and in time society will<br />
self-correct. But the sheer power of the forces of distraction is such that<br />
he thinks this will not happen.</p>
<p>This, for him, puts democracy at risk. It is a form of government that puts “a<br />
heavy burden of responsibility on our citizens”. But if they think Paris is<br />
in England and they can’t find Iraq on a map because their world is a social<br />
network of “friends” – examples of appalling ignorance recently found in<br />
American teenagers – how can they be expected to shoulder that burden?</p>
<p>This may all be a moral panic, a severe case of the older generation wagging<br />
its finger at the young. It was ever thus. But what is new is the assiduity<br />
with which companies and institutions are selling us the tools of<br />
distraction. Every new device on the market is, to return to Eliot, “Filled<br />
with fancies and empty of meaning / Tumid apathy with no concentration”.</p>
<p>These things do make our lives easier, but only by destroying the very selves<br />
that should be protesting at every distraction, demanding peace, quiet and<br />
contemplation. The distracters have product to shift, and it’s shifting. On<br />
the train to Wakefield, with my new 3G iPhone, distracted from distraction<br />
by distraction, I saw the future and, to my horror, it worked.</p></div>
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&#8220;Even a fool, when he holds his peace, is counted wise: and he that shuts his lips is esteemed a man of understanding.&#8221;
Proverbs 17:28 American King James Bible
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<p>&#8220;Even a fool, when he holds his peace, is counted wise: and he that shuts his lips is esteemed a man of understanding.&#8221;<br />
Proverbs 17:28 American King James Bible<br />
One of the most obvious and significant attributes that sets humans apart from the rest of the animal kingdom is the ability to communicate through speech. An interesting corollary is that we can also communicate our thoughts in real time; we do not need to plan what we’re going to say before we say it. This has both advantages and disadvantages. It would be clearly undesirable for us to have to formulate our thoughts before we issue an immediate warning (<em>&#8220;run!&#8221;</em>) and communication would be dramatically slowed if we were unable to respond, naturally, to people in normal conversation.<br />
On the other hand, this innate ability is often the source of consternation when what we say on the spur of the moment is something we later wish we had either not said, or said differently; it happens to everyone, sometimes, the trick is to remember when. Typically, this happens when we are responding quickly in stressful situations, or during confrontation, although it can happen at any time. Recognizing that we do not always say what we would like to say is an important realization – how to help mitigate that issue is not complex, but does require some behavioral changes. The goal is be aware of when to talk naturally and fluidly, and when to think before we speak&#8230; and when to not speak at all.<br />
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<li><strong>Observe yourself:</strong> Take note of when this happens to you. What circumstances led to you saying things that, later, you wish you had said differently. Does it happen mostly with one particular person (or group of people)? Is it most often in arguments or debates? Is it when you’re &#8220;on the spot&#8221; for information? Try to find a pattern. It might be helpful to start a <a title="Keep a Journal" href="http://www.wikihow.com/Keep-a-Journal">journal</a> of events so you can compare these at your leisure.</li>
<li><strong>Recognize your situation:</strong> After you determine what circumstances might be the most likely to produce this unwanted effect, try to be very observant about when those conditions appear to be manifesting. The more skilled you become at recognizing this, the better you will be at changing your approach.</li>
<li><strong>Observe the conversation:</strong> Now that you know you’re in one of &#8220;those&#8221; situations, the goal is for you to process information. Often when we respond in a less than appropriate way, it’s because we didn’t fully comprehend what was being said. This is the time to sit back and <a title="Listen" href="http://www.wikihow.com/Listen">listen</a> to what’s going on around you. Don’t start focusing on what you’re going to say; just absorb. Your mind will process this information in the background.</li>
<li><strong>Observe the people:</strong> Who is speaking and how do they communicate? Some people are very literal and some people use examples. Some people use a lot of <a title="Have a Pleasant Facial Expression" href="http://www.wikihow.com/Have-a-Pleasant-Facial-Expression">facial expression</a> and <a title="Read Body Language" href="http://www.wikihow.com/Read-Body-Language">body language</a> to augment their conversation whereas others rely on complex verbiage. How people convey information is a very good indicator of how they best absorb information.</li>
<li><strong>Formulate responses:</strong> Not just one, but consider your options. There are many different ways to say things and your goal here is to find the best way to convey what you want to say in a way that has a positive impact. Communication is primarily a function of the recipient so you have to communicate based on the listener.</li>
<li><strong>Consider the information:</strong> Is what you want to say <strong>E</strong>ffective, <strong>N</strong>ecessary, <strong>A</strong>ccurate, <strong>T</strong>imely, and <strong>A</strong>ppropriate (<em>ENATA</em>)? If you are just responding because other people are talking, then it’s possible your communication doesn’t fit the <em>ENATA</em> model. If not, then sit back and continue to listen. You want what you say to have impact, not just make noise.</li>
<li><strong>Gauge the reaction:</strong> Is the information you’re going to present formulated in a way to make a positive impact. Creating a negative atmosphere will guarantee failure in communications. You want people to understand that you are contributing rather than detracting. It only takes once to ruin your ability to communicate during that time. Identify how the listeners will react.</li>
<li><strong>Be thoughtful about your tone:</strong> How you say it is, in many ways, as important as what you say. Tone of voice can convey enthusiasm and sincerity, or it can rebuff and show sarcasm, and as most people have experienced, what we say can be taken in the wrong way. The most likely reason is that the tone of voice, what was said, body and facial language, as well as content, were not all thoughtfully combined to integrate with the listener’s most effective method of communication.</li>
<li><strong>Communicate:</strong> You now know what you’ll say, why it’s <em>ENATA</em>, how you’ll say it and the most likely reaction. Wait for an appropriate break in the conversation and speak. It’s usually best not to interrupt, although there are occasions when that will work best. When to interrupt is beyond the scope of this document.</li>
<li><strong>Repeat Step 1:</strong> While you’re talking, consider what you’re saying and keep a close watch on the reactions as they emerge. After the conversation is over, review the whole process again in your mind and note what you might have done differently and why. This is an ongoing process. Over time, you will refine and improve – you will become a better communicator and people will accept your responses with a more open mind.</li>
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<p><a name="Tips"></a></p>
<h2>Tips</h2>
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<li>When you say something you shouldn&#8217;t have, fix it in your mind to avoid that specific situation in the future.</li>
<li>Make sure your comments are germane to the conversation. Don’t stray from the topic – stay focused.</li>
<li>This will take time – it should become a part of your life. As you get better, you will be regarded as someone whose opinion is valued.</li>
<li>You will often be considered more mysterious by not needing to say every thought that crosses your mind. Eventually people will come to the conclusion that you know more than you&#8217;re letting on.</li>
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<p><a name="Warnings"></a></p>
<h2>Warnings</h2>
<ul>
<li>If you do not know what you’re talking about do not try to be convincing. It’s OK to express an opinion but make sure people know you’re speculating.</li>
<li>If people aren&#8217;t actually addressing you, they may not want your opinion. Try to tone down how much you force yourself into conversations.</li>
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<p><a name="Related_wikiHows"></a></p>
<h2>Related wikiHows</h2>
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<li><a title="Think Ahead" href="http://www.wikihow.com/Think-Ahead">How to Think Ahead</a></li>
<li><a title="Argue" href="http://www.wikihow.com/Argue">How to Argue</a></li>
<li><a title="Give a Feedback Sandwich" href="http://www.wikihow.com/Give-a-Feedback-Sandwich">How to Give a Feedback Sandwich</a></li>
<li><a title="Stay Focused" href="http://www.wikihow.com/Stay-Focused">How to Stay Focused</a></li>
<li><a title="Be Positive" href="http://www.wikihow.com/Be-Positive">How to Be Positive</a></li>
<li><a title="Form an Opinion" href="http://www.wikihow.com/Form-an-Opinion">How to Form an Opinion</a></li>
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